Savings & investment
Kelsey Gladwell
Financial planning as a couple doesn’t sound like the most romantic thing in the month of Valentine’s Day.
However, taking time to talk about shared financial goals does not just make practical sense – it can actually enhance your relationship.
Here we outline why financial planning could be the key to your shared future happiness as a couple.
“Not enough” would seem to be the answer.
Recent research from Opinium found that one in four people (26%) in long-term relationships (lasting two or more years) manage their lives together but not their finances.
It also found that:
Not only do people not talk about their finances to their partner – sometimes they actively cover them up.
Research from Co-op Legal Services found that one in three married people aged over 65 hide money from their spouse.
One in seven of those who admitted hiding money said they had £50,000 or more stashed away on the quiet.
Aside from the obvious reason that concealing important things from your partner is rarely a good idea, there are several practical areas where not communicating with each other about finance can create problems.
And conversely, talking things over about money matters can really reap dividends.
If you’re setting up home together, not only should you plan how you’re going to pay for where you live, but mortgage lenders will insist that you do.
Aside from the demands of lender application forms, talking about your mortgage with your partner is crucial in a number of ways.
For example, what size deposit can you afford and how should you finance it?
A larger deposit often means you can get a better mortgage deal but it’s important that both parties feel they have equal stakes in the property – even if one party is putting in more money than the other.
It’s also good to talk about how long you want the mortgage to last.
For example, if there is an age difference in the relationship, one party might be close to retirement by the time the house is paid for while the other has several years of working life left.
Such practical considerations naturally lead to more discussions about life goals and what kind of future you’re looking at together.
This can bring you as a couple closer together – or if it doesn’t, at least you know how the other person in the relationship feels.
If you’ve discussed getting a home together and the mortgage you need to pay for it, talking about how you’ll protect each other – and the rest of your family – if the worst should happen is an obvious next step.
Life insurance policies are generally cheaper the earlier in life that you take them out, so ensuring you and your partner are covered in the event of a death is a very good idea.
Talking about how much cover is needed and nominating the person to whom money should be paid is important to make sure your loved ones are covered – and it can bring real peace of mind to your relationship.
Protection isn’t just about what could happen in a worst case scenario.
Talking about how you would cope financially in the event of a serious illness, accident or unemployment will help you decide whether one or both of you should take out cover to protect against such occurrences.
Financial conversations shouldn’t just be about the nasty things in life.
Talking about how you will plan for your children’s future is really important and can give your offspring a great start in life and a comfort for their later years.
For example, you might want to start a Junior ISA for your child so that they have a valuable nest egg available to them once they hit 18.
You could also consider starting a child’s pension which other members of the family could contribute to and which could give them security for their later years.
Both of these products have implications for tax and for personal allowances – another reason to get together and discuss plans before carrying them out.
This is also the case for things like childcare allowances and vouchers, maternity pay and other family-related schemes.
This means it’s crucial that you both know where you stand when it comes to your finances in order to get the best deal for your family.
As the Opinium survey found, talking about retirement and sharing details of pension savings is an area many shy away from.
However, a couple considering retirement are so much better equipped for that phase of life if they put their heads together and plan as one.
Let’s take a very obvious thing: how much money do you need to have an enjoyable retirement?
The Retirement Living Standards have been developed by Pensions UK to help people picture what kind of lifestyle they could have in retirement and the costs involved.
There are a number of assumptions involved in their calculations – including people owning their own home, taxation levels and no social care costs – but the basic figures illustrate why two heads are better than one in retirement.
At each level of income – minimum, moderate and comfortable – the amount needed per person is considerably less for couples than it is for single people:
| Lifestyle level | Single person | Couple |
| Minimum | £13,400 a year | £21,600 a year |
| Moderate | £31,700 a year | £43,900 a year |
| Comfortable | £43,900 a year | £60,600 a year |
In addition to planning how you’ll finance your retirement, it’s also a good idea to talk about what each of you wants from this phase of your life.
For example, you might both want to go on a dream holiday or even buy a holiday home.
One of you might want to continue doing some part-time work while the other is content to put their feet up.
All of these decisions have consequences for your retirement finances and for things like how much of your pension pot you want to take as a tax-free lump sum or whether one or both of you should buy an annuity to give you guaranteed income for the remainder of your life.
Planning together will make such decisions easier to come by and will help you visualise and secure your lives in retirement.
What happens after you’ve gone is something that can be difficult for people to address.
Talking with your partner about the issue can put practical plans in place and provide real peace of mind for both of you.
As with all of these stages in life, bringing in an expert adviser can provide a neutral voice and independent advice on the best way forward.
Getting expert advice on putting a will in place and planning what happens with your estate can:
It’s particularly important for couples to co-ordinate on this process because of factors such as transferrable allowances and inheritance tax nil rate bands.
The worlds of romance and finance may seem to be very far apart.
Yet couples who don’t engage with each other when it comes to money matters can make life difficult for themselves and their loved ones.
Conversely, planning the future together can actually bring you closer together and demonstrate the real commitment you have for each other.
Expert, independent financial advice can help you to map out and achieve a future which you both want.
From setting up home to what happens after you’ve gone, we can assist at every stage with practical, actionable insights.
To find your perfect financial advice partner, get in touch today.
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute financial, tax, or legal advice. Tax treatment depends on individual circumstances and may change. The value of investments can go down as well as up and you may not get back the full amount you invested. Past performance is also not a reliable indicator of future performance. Always seek professional advice before making financial decisions.
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Couples financial planning involves partners working together to manage money, set shared goals and plan for life events such as buying a home, raising children, retirement and estate planning.
Open financial conversations build trust, reduce misunderstandings and help couples make better long-term decisions about savings, investments and protection.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer. Some couples combine finances fully, others partially, and some keep them separate. The key is transparency and agreement on shared goals.
The earlier the better. Major life events such as moving in together, buying a home, having children or planning retirement are ideal times to start.
A financial adviser provides impartial guidance, helps align goals, identifies risks and creates a tailored financial plan covering mortgages, protection, pensions and estate planning.
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